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A primer for the questions I get most. Skim the questions; expand any answer for the take and what to do next.

Very Frequently Asked Questions

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May I message you with questions?

Yes. I'd be happy to chat. Skim the rest of this page first. It answers most of what people ask before reaching out.
Can you refer me to your current company?

No. Unfortunately, I do not do cold referrals.
Can you review my resume?

Formal and casual resume reviews are closed.
How did you break into Microsoft / Tesla / Big Tech as a Software Engineer?
The short version, in the order it mattered for me:
- Developed clarity on my goals.
- Practiced technical skills.
- Increased visibility through personal branding, networking, and showcasing my work.
- Prepared for expectations of my candidacy.
I know, super vague.
Can I schedule a coffee chat with you?

Probably not. Asynchronous messages are easier for me. Please, no voice memos without a transcript.
Why are you ignoring me, or saying no to my request?

I value mutual respect and recoil from entitlement.

Mutual respect is the foundation of any productive conversation or partnership.

PLEASE Respect me and my time. As I respect you and yours.
PLEASE Be clear with your ask. What is your goal, and what have you tried?
PLEASE Be upfront with the budget. For speaking, consulting, or workshop engagements, even if the budget is zero.
PLEASE Send follow-ups and nudges when reasonable. They can be helpful.
PLEASE Be kind. Keep it win-win.

AVOID Entitlement or demands. Guilt-tripping, accusations of ghosting or gatekeeping.
AVOID Comments on bodies or physical traits. Mine or anyone else's, positive or otherwise.
AVOID Romantic advances. Of any kind, I will block.

The easiest way for us to connect is to reach out on LinkedIn.

The ones you know about lol

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